The world is in a state of unsettled transition where many find themselves out of work and in need. For many, they believe things will go back to normal soon. For others they have to make decisions that affect a significant part of their life. What criteria do we use to make decisions?
The basic criteria that supports a decision or determines if an action is valid are:
- It upholds evolution, the expansion of consciousness and life in general
- It is righteous and virtuous
- It adds to your purpose and mission in life
- It promotes true equanimity, love and peace
- It would be harmful to let an action not be done
The basic criteria that opposes a decision or determines if an action is invalid are:
- It is based on my gain or loss
- It opposes my evolution
- It harms without purpose
- It promotes dissonance or mental instability
RIGHT OR WRONG
Right or wrong, virtue or sin should be the initial factors to consider. Gain or loss should be a secondary consideration. Here are some overly simplified examples. These serve only as contemplations and you should act only in the best interest of you and others.
A person in the military knows it is wrong to kill but he must fight to uphold his dharma, protect his country and uphold the evolution of his people. It is not a matter of if he wins the war or loses the war. He must fight.
A person in a relationship sometimes must decide if they wish to remain in that relationship. There can be many opposing factors; children, economics, status, religion. But does that decision to leave support your evolution? Does that decision to leave promote your peace of mind? Does leaving keep you safe? Then you must leave. The gain or loss of money or status are secondary considerations. Certainly, the children are a primary consideration but if your evolution is harmed, if you become distraught and your mind is always unsettled and if you are harmed, the children will be wrongly served. Leaving serves them. Staying out of fear of a diminished life style or social status or because you think people will disapprove and judge you are insufficient reasons to stay. If you can work out ways to allow your evolution, your peace and your purpose to expand within the relationship, then stay.
A person has lost his job and doesn’t know what to do. Pick up stakes and move on? Call in every favor and fight to re-create a life where you are? Become depressed and give up? Marry someone who is rich? These are all options I actually know friends have chosen. Don’t let gain and loss be your first criteria. Where will you thrive and evolve spiritually the fastest? Where will your purpose in life be supported? Where will you feel the most ‘at home’, meaning gain the most profound peace of mind. If you are living in the midst of a huge city and are a farm person, you have just been freed to move to the country. If you love the big city and identify your purpose there, then remain and re-create something even more authentic to your purpose. If you know you love water and you live in a land locked state, find your water. I realize you must consider the money and the job. But you don’t have the job now and that frees you in a sense. The things that don’t support you are lack of motivation, depression and worthlessness. Determine what reduces those and supports creativity and expansion; evolution.
♥ Understand that you are awareness and remain grounded in that.
♥ Understand what supports your dharma; your evolution
♥ Understand what relationships support or don’t support you and make changes
♥ Understand that the actions you take have consequences. They determine your peace of mind or craziness of mind. They determine your spiritual advancement or stagnation.
♥ Understand that surrender doesn’t mean you say, “Here God, it’s all up to you.” It means you offer your heart and mind to God, you put God first and become vigilant as to the opportunities that God lays before you. Sometimes God appears as a friend speaking to you or an article that is in front of you. Generally, this is the way God speaks to us.
♥ Understand that you are not the doer. God acts through you and you are the witness. That’s the enlightened approach but beware of the “mood” of that. Making a mood of ‘not caring’ in the midst of gain and loss is detrimental. If you care, so be it, but remember the reality that you are awareness even if you don’t live in that reality in every minute.