Who we are is always being reflected back to us in our interactions with others. We are only capable of seeing love in another if we experience that love in ourselves first. And the same goes for fear, anger, hatred, and judgement. Every person we meet is always evoking something within us. What we are seeing in the other is what is in us. Life is about projection and reflection. Our judgments of others are what is inside us.
How people see us is about what is inside them. Even though we personalize the other’s judgement, it is always about them and what is inside them. It is actually never personal to us.
In truth we are psychically informing the other person to show up exactly the way we need them to show up in order for us to expand, become realized, and know our authentic self. The extent to which we love ourselves is the degree to which we see love in others. Who we are is always being reflected back to us in the form of another.
When another is evoking a response in us, relax into the feeling that is going on within us and realize that this response is the doorway to knowing our authentic self.
All relationships are a perfect reflection of what is happening within us.
How do you let go of judgments and not take them personally?
If another person is in judgment of you, then they are simply reflecting what is inside of themselves. The world is as you see it. Their judgment is how they see. It never has anything to do with you. It is only their inner state that is being exposed. If you feel the judgment, then you have personalized it and that is an egoic reaction. The judgment can never be personal to you because another’s judgment of you can only reflect what is inside of them.